Strategies to Win Tough Discussions

Strategies to Win Tough DiscussionsThe Right Way to Fight : Strategies to Win Tough DiscussionsThe Right Way to Fight

Introduction : Introduction Differences of opinion at work are inevitable and often integral to innovation, problem-solving, and performance improvement. But knowing that most clashes have benefits does not make them any easier to manage.

Disagreements : Disagreements Disagreements with coworkers can be uncomfortable, and if handled poorly, result in unproductive and even harmful conflict. The good news is that, with a little planning, you can avoid a fight and find an answer that everyone agrees on.

Disagreements : Disagreements Because most people are uncomfortable discussing differences, it's rare that disagreements go smoothly and most conflicts are resolved through brute force or splitting the difference. Unfortunately, this approach often means both sides are unhappy with the outcome.

What the Experts Say : What the Experts Say Having a productive disagreement starts with your mindset. It is important that you assume you have something to learn, assume there is a more creative solution than you've thought of. By entering the discussion with an open mind, regardless of your coworker's stance, you are likely to find common ground.

Strategies to Win Tough Discussions : Strategies to Win Tough Discussions Be Prepared: Being prepared for a dispute requires knowing your own position and trying to better understand your coworker's. Before approaching your colleague, you must know what your underlying intentions are.

Strategies to Win Tough Discussions : Strategies to Win Tough Discussions We can point out three types of differences between coworkers: Substantive, in which you disagree over the content or task at hand. Relational, when the dissent is really about your relationship with your coworker. Perceptual, when you and your coworker are seeing the problem differently.

Strategies to Win Tough Discussions : Strategies to Win Tough Discussions Learn to Approach the Situation: Acknowledge the type of disagreement you are having and check with your coworker that he sees it the same way. Regardless of the nature of the quarrel, try to leave your emotions at the door.

Strategies to Win Tough Discussions : Strategies to Win Tough Discussions Set up a suitable place: Preparation also includes careful consideration of logistics. Schedule your meeting so you will have enough time to reach a conclusion. Be sure the conversation can happen face to face in a private setting. Don't try to solve differences using email, which does not do a good job of conveying tone or nuance.

Strategies to Win Tough Discussions : Strategies to Win Tough Discussions Identify common ground: To start a difficult conversation the right way, it's important for you and your coworker to identify something you agree on. This may be a common goal or a set of operating rules that you consent to. Be sure that the common ground is something your colleague genuinely cares about, and not something you think he should.

Strategies to Win Tough Discussions : Strategies to Win Tough Discussions Hear your coworker out: Even if you think you already understand your coworker's perspective, you should hear what she has to say. Ask questions that help you fully understand her point of view and determine whether your disagreement is a function of differing interests or differing perceptions.

Strategies to Win Tough Discussions : Strategies to Win Tough Discussions Propose a resolution: When all of the data is on the table, offer a resolution. Don't propose what you walked in the door with, but use the information you gathered during your conversation to come up with a better solution.

Strategies to Win Tough Discussions : Strategies to Win Tough Discussions When it goes badly: If your exchange becomes heated, bring the conversation back to your shared interests or goals. Re-focus the dialogue on the future. If your coworker is antagonistic or aggressive, it may be best to take a break from the conservation. You can either literally step out of the room or pause mentally pause to observe the course of the conversation.

Principles to Remember : Principles to Remember Do: Focus on shared goals and interests. Understand the nature of your disagreement before meeting with your coworker. Remain open to persuasion Don't: Assume you fully understand your colleague's perspective. Try to solve a disagreement over email. Stop your coworker from venting his frustrations.

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