SYG2000Principles of Sociology Spring 2010 - Online : SYG2000Principles of Sociology Spring 2010 - Online Dr. Kristin E. Joos
ufsyg2000kristin@gmail.com
TA: Geovanny Perez
g8eo3@ufl.edu
Week 10: Sexualities, Relationships & Families : Week 10: Sexualities, Relationships & Families Agenda
Announcements
What's up on Campus & in the Community?
Sexualities
Relationships & Families
Characteristics of a Relationship with a “Perfect Partner”
7 Characteristics of Healthy Relationships
Questions to ask before Marriage
The American Family
Contemporary Relationships & Families: Myths & Trends
Equal Share Parenting
Week 10 –Announcements : Week 10 –Announcements Announcements
-Kristin’s Office Hours: Wed 8th online & Thurs 4th-5th in-person in 3231 Turl. :)
-Geovanny's Office Hours: Wed 6th online & in person and Thurs 5-6th in person in 3309 Turl. :)
-Assessment #2 is during Week 11 on 3/24
-SISLA Projects are due in just under a month on 4/7
What's up on Campus & in the Community
--Gator Non-Profit Professionals meeting, today at 6:30 pm in MAT 113
-Florida Modern-Day Slavery Museum, Wed & Thurs from 9 am- 4:30 pm at Plaza of the Americas
-Summer Job Fair, Thur. 3/18 from 10-2 pm on the Reitz Union Colonnade
-Panel Discussion on Alternately-Fueled Vehicles, Thur. 3/18 from 1:45- 3:30 pm in Reitz 361-363
-UF Model UN Club meeting, Thur. 3/18 at 6:30 pm in TURL 2318
-Environmental Film & Arts Festival, Fri. 3/19- Sun. 3/28 at the Hipp See: www.thehipp.org
-Spring Garden Festival, Sat. 3/20 from 9 am- 6 pm & Sun. 3/21 from 10 am- 5 pm at Kanapaha Botanical Gardens
-Haven Hospice's “Run for Haven,” Sat. 3/20 at 4:30 pm at Tioga Town Center See: www.active.com
-Trail of Payne 10K, Sat. 3/20 at 8 am at Paynes Prairie Preserve State Park (Micanopy) Contact: ufandi@ufl.edu
-Reduce, Reuse, Recycle, Rethink!: Clothing & Food Drive, Mon. 3/22- Fri. 3/26 from 10 am- 3 pm at Plaza of the Americas
Sexualities : Sexualities LGBTQ (+ Questioning, Allies, Asexual, Intersex) Identities
Homophobia vs. Heterosexism
Policy Issues
Charter Amendment 1 passed in FL in March 2008
DOMA (Defense of Marriage Act), 1996
“Same Sex” Marriage vs. Civil Unions vs. Domestic Partnerships
Extra Credit Challenge
Relationships : Relationships Imagine that you meet the “perfect partner” -- someone with whom you could really spend the rest of your life.
What would your relationship be like?
List 2 attributes of your relationship.
7 Characteristics of Healthy Relationships : 7 Characteristics of Healthy Relationships 1. Be aware of what you and your partner want for yourselves and what you want from the relationship.
2. Let one another know what your needs are.
3. Realize that your partner will not be able to meet all your needs. Some of these needs will have to be met outside of the relationship.
4. Be willing to negotiate and compromise on the things you want from one another.
5. Do not demand that a partner change to meet all your expectations. Work to accept the differences between your ideal mate and the real person you are dating.
6. Try to see things from the other’s point of view. This doesn’t mean that you must agree with one another all the time, but rather that both of you can understand and respect each other’s differences, points of view, and separate needs.
7. Where critical differences do exist in your expectations, needs, or opinions, try to work honestly and sincerely to negotiate. Seek professional “coaching” early rather than waiting until the situation becomes critical.
http://www.gottman.com/research/about/
Relationships : Relationships Research shows that most relationships end because of:
-problems with communication
-problems with money
-problems with communicating about money
Questions to ask before getting married...
Defining Family - Exercise : Defining Family - Exercise 1. Define or describe the image that immediately comes to mind when you hear the phrase “The American Family.”
2. How does your own family relate to (or differ from) this image (that you explained above)?
3. Do you think that your definition of “The American Family” is accurate? Where do you think you got this image? (from “reality”? from images on TV & movies?) Do you have examples of how you were informed of this image.
4. Thinking critically (like a sociologist), what might be a more accurate image of “The American Family”?
Contemporary American Families: Trends : Contemporary American Families: Trends -less than ¼ of all households in the US are married with children
-people are delaying parenting or choosing not to have children
-the most common type of household in the US (in 2000) was married without children (28.7%) and single-person (25.5%).
http://www.contemporaryfamilies.org/public/education.php
-the age at first marriage is increasing:
In the U.S., its currently 28.7 years for men, 26.8 years for women
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_at_first_marriage
- more people than ever are choosing not to marry.
-necessity of dual-earner couples
-”the second shift”
Contemporary American Families: Myths : Contemporary American Families: Myths Myth 1: The Universal Nuclear Family:
While some form of marriage and family is found in all human societies, the idea that there is a universal, or single, marriage and family pattern blinds us to the historical reality of diversity in terms of marriages and families.
Myth 2: The Self-Reliant Traditional Family:
Assumes that families were held together by hard work, family loyalty and a fierce determination not to be beholden to anyone, especially the state (charity).
In fact, United States families have always depended to some degree on other institutions and networks, churches, neighbours, courts, government officials, and legislative bodies, as well as African American slaves and Native Americans.
Myth 3: The Naturalness of Different Spheres for Wives and Husbands:
This myth dates to the nineteenth century when economic changes led to the development of separate spheres for women and men. Wives and mothers became caregivers and the moral guardians of the family, while husbands and fathers provided economic support and protection and represented their families to the outside world.
Contemporary American Families: Myths : Contemporary American Families: Myths Myth 4: The Unstable African American Family:
Is fueled by racist stereotypes and media exaggerations and distortions that overlook the diversity of African American life.
This myth draws on some real trends that affect the African American community. Many sociologists today argue that there is no one family type, and African American families, like other families, should not be viewed as deviant departures from white middle-class forms.
Myth 5: The Idealized Nuclear Family of the 1950s:
Consisted of a wise father who worked outside the home; a mother who stayed home to care for husband, children, and home; and well-behaved, obedient children.
Compared to the 1990s, the 1950s were characterized by younger age at marriage, higher birth rates, and lower divorce and premarital pregnancy rates.
However, those rates represented an all-time high for the United States, and are attributed to reaction to the hardships of the Depression and WWII.
Parenting : Parenting Equal Share Parenting
http://video.nytimes.com/video/playlist/magazine/1194811622351/index.html#1194817111022