10 Things for Effective Communication

Dear all,10 things which we should never forget to follow while conversing with others. In today’s competitive era when everyone is pre occupied with one’s own self it has become very difficult to interact properly to others. In our haste we sometimes miss the very basic things in our life. Knowingly or unknowingly we have made ourselves like machines and self centered people and then we think that what is lacking in us? Why we don’t have effective personality and communicative skills? Why people don’t pay any attention to us? We’ll have to change our attitudes. These are the things which can really make you a person with excellent communicative skills:Call people by their names: People always feel a strange kind of belongingness to their names. A name is something which they really want to hear from others as it gives us a sense of ‘Being’. So whenever you talk to your friends or someone, always call out their names in a tender tone, they would surely feel closer to you. Even if they are below your position or status, you must call them with their names only, they would respect you for such quality.Always Smile at them while greeting and meeting: whenever we greet each other we must always wear a smile on face as smile is the best thing which we can share without paying or losing anything. What if you meet someone in the morning and one greets you “good morning” with a long face, how would you feel? Obviously, it would spoil your mood on getting negative vibes from the one. So don’t let it happen to you, give a smile to such people also so that you can make them also cheerful.Take genuine interest in them: Sometimes we just ignore this very important point while talking to others. We are just interested in ourselves only; we hardly bother about the person we are talking to. So just don’t listen to them, try and understand them. Seek interest in them. What they are and what they want from you are the things which we should always be interested in.Listen to them: Listening to others is a great art. It’s not about listening to them without their consent. Don’t just hear what they say or don’t just listen to reply but do listen to them carefully and try to understand instead of replying them. One more important thing while listening to is that let others finish first what they want to say, never interrupt them in between.Try to remember them after meeting once: It feels quite awkward when you go and talk to someone you know and you get the reply “sorry I forgot you or not able to recognize you” or “sorry I forgot your name”, it may sound the person humiliated. So always try to remember whenever and wherever you meet people and grow reciprocity.Be polite and generous: A sweet word is always good to ears so try to be polite always. Sometimes when we behave politely and we get any harsh reply we immediately change our tone to a ruder one and after that we tend to justify by saying that it is the need of today. This tendency has to be changed.Compliment Others: don’t be so egoistic that you can not praise anyone. Never lose any single opportunity to appreciate or compliment them. Just think for once, how good it feels when someone praises you or gives you a compliment! So let others feel the same joy. But beware of false praises. It may demean you in others’ eyes as everyone can sense the difference between genuine and fake praises.Avoid backbiting: it is a best policy to avoid a third person’s name between your conversations in his absence. It is better to speak directly to the person whatever you have to say about him, it will elude a lot of problems and people will trust you more if you avoid backbiting. Sometimes we don’t do it intentionally but unconsciously we drag someone, between our conversations with others, in his absence it may hurt one’s feelings or he/she may feel betrayed if they come to know about this from other sources. So give some extra attention to this.Avoid giving unnecessary advice: until we are asked we should never give unnecessary advice to others. Let others’ have their ways. It’s their life so don’t interrupt them if their ways don’t harm others. It is not necessary that everyone would live as you want so don’t interfere in their life and keep your precious pieces of advice to you only.Say good words while parting: generally we just say ‘bye’ or ‘see you’ like words. It’s good if you say this but if you add something to it then it would be better. Always say good words to others while parting and remember that if you have met them with sadness on their faces then it is your moral duty to make them smile.The things written are not very difficult to follow but how many of us follow these simple rules? Just a few simple steps and then you may become a favourite to all.With best wishes,Thanks and regards,Bhanupriya