Controlling Your Anger : Self-Control
Lesson 3 Outrage: An act of violence and brutality; anger and resentment aroused by insult or injury. Controlling Your Anger Wrath: Strong, vengeful anger or indignation. Fury: A person’s violent temper; intense, disordered & often destructive rage Rage: A violent & uncontrolled anger intensely & openly displayed. Resentment: A feeling of indignant displeasure or persistent ill will at real or imagined wrong.
Slide 2 : What are emotions?
Emotions are feelings that include both positive and negative responses, which are triggered by what we experience.
What are some of the typical emotions we experience?
Joy, anger, fear, love, hate, depression, passion, sorrow, excitement, embarrassment, thankfulness, and so forth.
How can we practice self-control regarding our emotions?
By stopping, thinking about our thoughts and feelings, considering our options and then proceeding to make a right decision.
Slide 3 : Today we will focus on the emotion of anger and how you can practice self-control regarding anger.
Anger : Anger Is a normal emotion.
Can become dangerous
Can affect the way you deal with others.
Can affect the way you feel about yourself.
Facts About Anger : No one ever makes you angry. You make a conscious choice to become angry.
Anger is a secondary emotion.
Anger is felt as a result of other emotions that have not been appropriately resolved.
Anger that is uncontrolled can turn to rage.
“We create our own anger by the way we think, our attitude and our choices.” Facts About Anger
Anger Hurts : Anger Hurts Anger that is uncontrolled has the potential of causing harm that cannot be repaired.
Question of the Day… Why do we get angry? : We experienced something that is bad or our expectations were not met.
The reasons we get angry are called triggers.
A trigger causes something to occur.
A trigger could be a person, situation or experience. Question of the Day… Why do we get angry?
Feeling a little insecure? : Don’t take everything so personally:
Taking the random comments of others personally.
This comes from our own insecurities.
Insecurities are areas where we lack confidence. Feeling a little insecure?
Jumping to conclusions : Jumping to conclusions Insecurities can lead to jumping to conclusions.
What do you see? : What do you see?
Jumping to conclusions[cont..] : Just like the optical illusion, we can see one thing at first glance, but upon closer inspection, it becomes clear it is misleading.
Keep things in perspective.
We sometimes make assumptions based on insecurities. Jumping to conclusions[cont..]
Work it Out! : Another anger trap lies in using abusive behavior as a means to resolve conflicts.
Conflicts are not excuses to become angry. Work it Out!
Anger Sequence : Anger Sequence
Slide 14 : There are three typical ways an angry person responds: To withdraw means to ignore the source of the anger. Displacement: When angry you tend to store your anger and take it out on others or inanimate objects rather than handle your feelings in a straightforward way Attack. When angry you tend to be verbally and physically aggressive.
You Are Responsible : No one can make you angry and no one can control your anger for you.
START controlling your anger.
Change your concept of anger.
Common misconceptions:
Anger is an excuse to become physically or verbally aggressive.
Anger is a reason to withdrawal from those you care about.
Anger is a reason to hurt yourself.
Anger is a reason to get even.
Anger simply tells you that something is being said or done the you do not agree with. You Are Responsible
Slide 16 : Focus on cool thoughts.
Ways to Deal : Speak in a respectful tone of voice.
Use “I” language to communicate your feelings.
Behave in a peaceful way.
Use your positive character traits.
If possible, walk away and take time out to cool down.
Talk to someone trusted. Ways to Deal
What have I learned? : Anger is normal.
Anger can be dangerous.
No one can make me angry.
Anger is secondary.
Conflicts are not an excuse.
Feeling angry is the result of a series of steps.
I can handle my anger. What have I learned?