BE YOURSELF (Series)Don’t say “YES” when you want to Say “NO” : BE YOURSELF (Series)Don’t say “YES” when you want to Say “NO” Assertive Training with
Ijaz Khan
Personal and Business Coach
ASSERTIVENESS TRAINING : ASSERTIVENESS TRAINING We fail to draw lines, set limits, speak up or say "No" to people
Suffering in silence, half heartedness or forgetfulness
We perceived as “ always says YES” so more Demands or Requests (unwanted or unwelcomed) sometime unnoticed.
Adding more stress to our already stressed life.
Exercise Finding some Answers : Exercise Finding some Answers Answer "YES" or "NO”
(Think what would happened if we said NO/YES, instead)
Do you buy things you do not really want because it is difficult to say "NO" to the Salesman/Sales girl?
Do you hesitate to return items to a store even when there is a good reason to do so?
If someone talks aloud during a movie, play or concert, can you ask him to be quite?
When a friend makes an unreasonable request, are you able to refuse?
Are you able to ask favours or requests of your friends?
Exercise Finding some Answers : Exercise Finding some Answers Answer "YES" or "NO”
6. Can you criticize a friend?
7. Can you praise a friend?
8. Would you rather bottle up your feelings than make asense?
9. Are you satisfied with the progress in your career?
10. Are you (or would be) a good model of assertivenessfor your own children?
!(Think what would happened if we said NO/YES, instead)
What is in Next session? stay till end of session
Three Responses to Stimulus : Three Responses to Stimulus Passive (Lose/Win Situation)
feeling:
Helpless, Resentful, Disappointed, Pleasing others, Manipulated, Pushed and Given up your Rights
Aggressive (Lose/Lose Situation)
Feelings:
Angry, Frustrated, Dominating, Tensed, Forcing others to Lose, Compromising others Happiness for your Gains
Assertive (Win/Win Situation)
Standing for yourself
Honest and Helpful to others
Positive, Assured, Strong in your state
Questing to Ask “ why am I like this” (Passive or Aggressive)
“How can I change to make it BETTER”
Assertive Training : Assertive Training Exercise
Visual, Auditory & Kinaesthetic Practice
(Dealing with Sub-modalities)
Role Play
Relaxation
Power of Silence
Practice say “NO” in daily routines.
What is in Next session? stay till end of session
Assertive Training : Assertive Training Feedback and Comments
Q&A
Closing : Closing Recommendations
Next Series Session
(Anger Management)