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How Do You Communicate online Test

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Someone cuts in front of you in a line. You:

A good friend has just gone through an emotionally wrenching breakup and needs some emotional support. You are exhausted from the day's work. The phone rings and caller I.D. announces that it's her. You:

You haven't taken a vacation for a while, and have one planned for next week. Your company gets a new project and they need you. It's time sensitive and, of course, they want your help during the two weeks you'll be on vacation. You:

When you're in an argument, you tend to be most concerned with:

Someone at work is making inappropriate jokes at your expense. You:

You are meeting a co-worker for the first time outside of work. They show up 20 minutes late. You:

You have a friend who is consistently 15 to 20 minutes late when meeting you. Eventually, you:

An overly critical relative that you see regularly tends to throw veiled insults at you, always pointing out what she believes are your shortcomings. Eventually you:

Your partner habitually makes you the butt of jokes in front of others. You bring this up in private and say that it hurts you when this happens, but your partner tells you that you need to develop a better sense of humor, and the jokes continue. You:

You go to dinner at your favorite restaurant. Your waiter brings your food after a very long wait, and when it finally arrives, it's cold. You:

Description:

This self test is designed to help you assess your style of relating with others. With each question, take a minute to vividly imagine how you would respond (be honest, so the test will be accurate and helpful). Then read each response and pick the one that best describes your response. (If your exact response isn't listed, just pick the one that's closest to what you would do.) At the end, you'll learn about your style of relating to others and how it might be impacting your life, and find resources for healthy communication and conflict resolution.

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Comments

By: Hanan Sitlia
443 days 22 hours 3 minutes ago

I recommend this test because we learn what is the best approach to communicate with others and face same though situations. I think it is worth to improve our vision of things for better life.
Linda, I would like to understand what you mean by: "Try to get on that relative's "good side" and improve these flaws so you'll left alone". It's not that clear!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By: Joan Kamaru
415 days 8 hours 34 minutes ago

My Review:
Q1 - These days there are a LOT of crazy people around, but not so crazy that they can't see 'the line' - man or woman they can turn on you and cause serious damage.
I would rather wait a few more minutes than be 'right' about who was there first.
If the person is new to area then it is polite to make this person aware of where the line starts and point to the people behind you who are also waiting. Most people are a bit embarrassed of their mistake and will comply.
I've seen some horrrible things happen - so if you pick the wrong person have a good back up plan lol!
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Q3 - My work ethic is a little different as I was trained for emergency services where you are on call 24/7 holiday or no. Also, if you love your work it is no hassle and career wise is good for your record.
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Q2 - If this refers to a person who has an 'emotional breakup' often I would say maybe you are right. People usually have to blather on quite a bit before they can tell you what is really bothering them, if it was my friend they could talk all they want.
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Q8 - Usually people who are nasty are nasty to everyone and it is no secret to family and friends alike. They are likely to say mean things for the sheer pleasure of inflicting pain (oh that new dress is so pretty too bad it is too tight on you) and have no care for your 'improvement', if indeed you need any in the first place.
They often do this in company hoping to spoil things and if you can muster pity for them it helps!
Often these comments come from some inner feelings of being inferior themselves. Reply to them on an equal basis in a calm voice as it takes away their wind, and if they really do say something hurtful don't show it and shrug it off.
Just when did they become your judge anyway? Retorts are fun but make you just as mean as them and achieve nothing as now they will have to better you..being a bully has many masks!
If you try to get on their 'good side' then you will be seen as agreeing with this person, yuk!

Q9 - No one likes to made fun of or made a fool in company. This is a serious thing if it becomes a pattern for abuse. It will also cause your mutual friends or workmates to be uncomfortable around you both. No one likes to be involved in marital type quibbles.

It CAN be a way of a partner trying to take the limelight and all in good fun. People love to entertain their peer group - you will see that most successful comics have a straight man. Try joining in the fun without seeming to be getting back and you might find it good fun. You can see some couples have a 'routine' that gets played over and over and is part of their history.
But if it happens all the time and for only one reason - then is time for you to think about how maybe you are doing something that is irksome!
Not everyone has skills and men in particular can be awkward in telling their loved ones what they are thinking.
If it is a short term relationship you may well end it - though when you have many years together you must consider many things and give it a lot of thought and some hard work if you want things to change for the better.

Q-10 If the food was inedible cold and the place was not busy I would ask, but having run kitchens myself - I would be able to eat it cool (I sometimes do at home) and maybe let the waiter know it was cool when paying and ask what the hassle was. That gives the waiter a bit of relief and shows respect.
If the wait was long then that means some kind of trouble in the kitchen and I would tend to be compassionate towards the situation. Also, if it is your favorite place then surely one cool dinner is not a hardship. If it is yukky cold then of course you would say something, tho I have heard some scary stories of what waiters and cooks will do at times to get revenge ; ]
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I like your questions Linda, and Hanan is right in her comment that we share these situations and can only benefit from this discussion.
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