Stress Management 101 Public Class

When I was a little girls I had a magnificent German Shepard called d'Aramis. I named him after my favorite character of the Three Musketeers. One day- when I was about 10- he attacked me for no reason. After some re-training and tests the Vet has told us that his ancestors- must have been trained during WW2 as guard dogs, and there was nothing we could do to make him 'not aggressive to the point of potentially killing people'.
So- up to the age of 20- I was terrified of dogs. I would freeze up each time I saw a dog running towards me, and because of my unusual reaction to ALL DOGS- especially one's that resembled d'Aramis- The dogs would become aggressive towards me.
Today- many moons after my unfortunate attack- I am a proud owner of a Siberian Husky. He's about 70 LB (130 kg), with big teeth and big blue eyes. He is from the family of dogs that pulls sleds across Yukon in the winter. He is so strong that when I attempt to take him out for a walk- he takes me out running... He has the physical ability to 'crush me like a nut' if he wanted to- yet every day, when I come home from work- he lets me know how highly he thinks of me by licking my face and tripping me onto the ground, acting as if he has not seen me for years- "Thank you! Thank you for coming back!" he says in his dogie language- more grateful for my presence than my own kids.
I have had him since he was the same age that d'Aramis was- and I took the time to KNOW that he was NOT the same dog that almost ripped my face off when I was 10.
Even tho humans are lot more complicated species than the most direct descendants of the wolf- same principals apply:
Every human being on this planet is different AND all of them will hurt you at one time or another.
The more you care about them, the more it will burn, when they commit an act that goes against the things that you treasure the most in your heart... Yet my answer is NOT to isolate yourself from all potential hurt and disappointment- but go out there and LEARN.
Remember when I said in my positive affirmations section:
"There is no failure- only feedback"?
It is in the failures of relationships that we can learn the most about who we really are... Ask yourself: "What was my part of this relationship failing- and what can I do better next time"
As for fear of getting married- you should be scared, you should be terrified! People who go into marriage thinking, or at least acting as if is all about 'bedroom eyes and roses' ARE setting themselves up for a great disappointment.
In marriage you give up your privacy, 'your right to remain silent' and EVERYTHING that you say and do IS going to be used against YOU - at your mates liking ...
Yet when I work with couples, that are well into their 80's, that have been married for over 50 years, and when she walks out of the room and he tells me that he is the luckiest person in the world- to have the greatest wife in the world- it's so worth the pain and the tears...
The following principals are lot more important than the law of attraction:
1. Diamonds are created under extreme pressure
2. Masterpieces are never created quickly
3. People do require to be 'tamed'- Read "The Little Prince"
4. People will never 'complete you'- might complement who you and in marriage or a team 'uplift you' but you yourself are a complete and a wonderful spirit.
5. Marriage is never 50% 50%= One existence. It is 100% 100%= ONE- I know- crazy math...
6. You have to know what you want from a relationship- before you can get it.
7. Before giving your object of attention ANYTHING- it is crucial to know what they need- This you can learn through the process of taming... With women- I will give you a hit- Women will usually give you the things that they want themselves. If your girlfriend keeps on telling you how good you look- she probably needs to know that to you she is the most attractive woman in the world.
Keep in touch! Thank you for your participation. I am looking forward to having you in the virtual classroom.
-Coach Anita

Feel free to ask on forum or off forum.
Will repeat this in the future- among with other presentations that I do in person.
Thank you for attending!